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  • Christine Ayala

Healthy Boundaries

Being compassionate and loving is not the same as letting people endlessly “vent” and complain to you. Giving someone a shoulder to cry on doesn’t mean you do it constantly. When people surround themselves with drama, you don’t have to participate. The Lord teaches us to be wise - wisdom includes healthy boundaries in all of our relationships.

“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life” (Proverbs 4:23). A guard is a boundary, a definitive line or limit that we put up to keep out sin, distraction, and unnecessary brokenness.

You can be a good friend by calling out bad behavior without judgement and with love. It might not be received well, at least at first - but we’re taught to tell the truth IN LOVE. We must only do this out of love though; not impatience, aggravation or anger. Sometimes people aren’t ready to hear it, and that is part of their own walk. Sometimes you just need to say, “I know you’re upset about this - you talk about it a lot- but I want to know how you’re going to move on and overcome it - let’s talk about that.”

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